Transgender people are faced with many challenges, some of them are even extremly hard to deal with. The initial stage of every relationship is general understanding about each other, and everyone wants to know more about their partner at the beginning of the relationship. A a transgender person, things come to more difficult than others. Should they tell their partners that they are trans people before dating? If they want to tell the truth, how to come out in a more acceptable way?Personally, I choose to tell my partner that I'm a trans woman before trans dating. I'm confident to be myself, no matter what other people are talking about. I dress and act like a cisgender woman, I even feel that I'm more natural and beautiful than cisgender women. I can tell everyone I'm a trans woman.
When I was 15, I decided to transition, fortunately, my families all support my decision. I was date with boys after transition. Finally, I had my gender affirmation surgery when I was 20. Now I'm a woman, and I'm quite sure about what kind of men I want to date and live with in the future. The following advice are based on my personal experience.
Be honest to your dating partner
Be honest about your gender and transition. If your are not ready to tell other people your transition process, you need to tell them who you are at least. Tell your partner that you are a trans person before dating. They may feel being cheated if they know that your are a trans person from others. It's also dangerous to you if your date partner cannot accept transgender people, in order to protect yourself, you should tell them that your are a trans person at first. It may not safe to come out as a trans person, but you should be honest to your partner at least.
Tell them that you are a trans person before having sex
You may don't want to tell your partner that you are a trans person at the first date, but you should tell them before having sex, because you need to make sure that both of you and your partner are comfortable in this relationship. Non one wants to waste times on the wrong person, if a relationship makes you and your partner uncomfortable, stop it and find someone new.
Always ready to protect yourself
I've date several kinds of men, not everyone can accept to date a trans woman. When I told them that I'm a trans woman, they turned to be unfriendly and resistant. As a trans woman, you need to know how to protect yourself in such occasion. They need time to know what they want clearly, so I didn't connect with them after that. I didn't worry that they will run away and let me alone, because I don't want to date and live with someone who don't like me, I need a life partner, not a short-time lover. As a trans person, you should clear about what do you want.